Personal Growth
Individual
Sex Therapy
Sexual well-being has been significantly disregarded in the way it impacts our overall quality of life, and it’s not always easy to navigate on your own.
This is where sex therapy comes in—a space where you can explore your concerns and work toward a more satisfying and fulfilling intimate life.
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Keep scrolling to learn how it can help with some common challenges.
Struggling to Be Present During Intimacy
Ever find your mind wandering during those intimate moments, thinking about everything except what’s happening right in front of you (or on top of you)? You’re not alone.
Many people struggle with being fully present because of stress, worries, self-doubt, or the million and one things on our to-do lists. In sex therapy, you’ll learn ways to quiet those distractions in your mind to really connect with your body and your partner.
By focusing on the here and now, you have more access to the pleasure and connection available to you in those intimate moments
Tackling Performance Anxiety and the Pressure to Please
Feeling anxious about “getting it right” in bed or worried that you’re not doing enough?
That pressure can suck the fun out of sex and turn it into something that feels more like a chore. This is where we can work together to unpack where those anxious thoughts are coming from and how to shift your mindset.
Instead of a specific outcome, the goal is to help you approach intimacy with confidence and genuine excitement, not stress or obligation.
Overcoming Insecurities Related to Your Body and Your Sexual Abilities
If you’ve ever felt insecure about your body or worried that you’re not good enough in bed, know that these feelings are incredibly common—and they can really impact your sex life.
Sex therapy gives you an opportunity to explore these insecurities in a supportive environment and start building a more positive relationship with your body. By gaining confidence in yourself, you’ll find it easier to relax and enjoy being intimate.
After all, if you don’t like the skin you’re in, why would you feel comfortable inviting anyone else in to share that space with you?
Filling in the Gaps in Sexual Education
Let’s be real: most of us did not receive great sexual education, especially due to the fact that this type of education has been banned from schools in several states. This leaves our society with lots of questions, unrealistic expectations, and several misconceptions.
If you’ve ever felt confused or unsure about what’s happening during sex—either in your mind or your body—sex therapy can help clear things up.
You’ll get personalized information that deepens your understanding of how things work, so you can feel more confident and satisfied in your sexual experiences.
What You’ll Walk Away With
By diving into sex therapy for yourself, you’ll have an opportunity to find a deeper connection with yourself and your partner, boosted sexual confidence, and a clearer understanding of what makes you tick. It’s all about helping you overcome what’s holding you back so you can enjoy a more satisfying and enjoyable intimate life.
Top 5 Questions I Receive as a Sex Therapist
We love each other, shouldn’t ‘it’ just happen?
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I think this is one of the biggest misconceptions. Couples often think that their intimate relationship “should” just unfold in a “natural and organic” way.
Unfortunately, this is not the case for most couples. Let’s face it, our schedules are packed, our attention is pulled in a million different directions, we’re absolutely exhausted by the end of the day, and we barely find time for ourselves, much less each other.
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The reality is, our relationships require time, attention and intentionality for intimacy to thrive.
What do I do if my partner has a higher / lower sex drive than me?
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First of all, let’s acknowledge that this is so common for couples.
Also, there may be a few different things at play - maybe you are in a fairly hectic season of life right now, or maybe there has been some shifts in your hormones, you might have different sexual preferences, and you might have different desire styles.
If you don’t have a working understanding of how your sexual self operates, then it’s hard to get on the same page as your partner.
My partner and I never seem to be on the same page sexually; are we even compatible?
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So many couples get stuck in the trap of their differences becoming points of tension, when the reality is, we just might not know how to work with them. When couples learn how to leverage their differences, they become unstoppable.
Whether you have different styles of desire, different love languages, different “levels” of experience, different ways you get turned on, or different fantasies…self-awareness, communication and accommodation are key!
I have performance anxiety; Is this something you can help with?
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What would happen if we stopped viewing sex as a “performance”? Would you feel less anxious about passing or failing the test?
What if we, instead, allowed ourselves to base the quality of our intimate relationships by the level of pleasure we are able to receive through the experience? Would this change your overall experience?
Unfortunately, too many men and women are left feeling paralyzed by their insecurities within sexual experiences, especially because there’s such a gap in sound sexual education within our culture. When we start shifting and expanding our perspective and approach to sex and intimacy, we open up new and exciting possibilities.
It seems like every other area of our relationship is strong, except for this one!
What can we do to get on the right track?
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This is exactly what my private couple’s immersions and retreats have been made for.
Our sexual self is so incredibly nuanced, and can sometimes be a little difficult to navigate. My retreats help couples dedicate the time necessary to take a deeper dive into this exquisite part of themselves, exploring the roots of your sexuality, while also expanding their experience of intimacy.
The experience helps couples gain a deeper understanding of themselves and each other, while learning the tools and resources needed to enhance their sexual experiences.
