Understanding How the Clitoris Unlocks Women’s Pleasure
- Rachel Smith
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
Why Women’s Pleasure Got Left Out of the Conversation
Let’s be honest, when most people talk about “down there,” they call the whole thing the vagina. And that’s a problem. Why? Because it erases the clitoris, aka the real MVP of women’s pleasure.
For centuries, women’s pleasure was ignored in research, dismissed in conversations, or flat-out misunderstood. In fact, the full structure of the clitoris wasn’t “found” until the late 90’s and was first published in the early 2000’s! The result? Too many women feel disconnected from their own bodies and missing out on the full potential of their pleasure.
The Clitoris: Way More Than a “Little Button”
The clitoris isn’t just that tiny nub you can see. It’s an entire structure wrapping around the vaginal canal, packed with over 10,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ in the human body.
And unlike other sexual organs, it’s not about reproduction. Nope. It's only job is to bring you pleasure. That’s it. (Kind of amazing when you think about it.)
Why This Actually Matters
When women (and their partners) haven’t learned about the clitoris, they often walk around thinking something’s wrong with them, feeling shame, frustration, or like they’re “missing something” when sex doesn’t feel great, or when the big “O” isn’t achieved. When really, what they’re missing is information.
For way too long, women’s bodies were studied only for how they could create life, not how they could create joy. But the clitoral structure exists for a reason: your pleasure matters. Understanding it gives you permission to own your body, your confidence, and your curiosity.
Reclaiming Your Pleasure
Talking openly about the clitoris isn’t “TMI.” It’s necessary. Because once you understand how your body actually works, you can stop second-guessing and start connecting with yourself (and your partner) in a way that feels good, empowering, and shame-free. Helping you tap into the sexual desire that has been laying dormant for way too long.
Bottom line? You weren’t built just to function. You were built to feel. And the more we normalize that conversation, the more we can celebrate women’s pleasure exactly as it deserves to be.
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About The Author
Rachel Smith is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Board Certified Sex Therapist with a passion for empowering ambitious women and committed couples. She is dedicated to guiding them on a journey of love and healing, helping to rekindle passion and deepen connections. As the founder of Infinite Intimacy, Rachel offers therapeutic services, workshops, and retreats designed to support clients in embracing their authentic selves in both life and relationships.